01.09.08
Jobs are Confidence Builders for Teenagers
After raising four teenagers and in the process of raising two more, I have concluded that one of the biggest confidence builders for teenagers is getting a job.
I have noticed that my children receive more feedback and attention from their employers than they do their school teachers.  I feel that most of the time kids are meshed together as a group at school. On the other hand, most of the time in the work place, they are recognized as individuals, and often receive compliments for being prompt, honest, responsible, or for a job well done.
When payment for their work hours is received, they feel a sense of fulfillment and accomplishment, and that they are capable of taking care of some of their expenses like clothes, activities, and gas. Breaking the cycle of asking mom and dad for money makes them feel more independent, and gives them the opportunity to save at least 10% of their earnings. Working a job also gives them the opportunity to apply some of the skills they are striving to master at school, and helps them to realize that they need to strive to improve and increase their skill set so they can rise above working basic, menial jobs.Â
Anytime you can guide your teenager to situations where there is positive, complimentary reinforcement like working a job, you will see an increase in their confidence.